The weakest home- by Bro Kamal Saleh

ۖ وَإِنَّ أَوْهَنَ الْبُيُوتِ لَبَيْتُ الْعَنكَبُوتِ ۖ لَوْ كَانُوا يَعْلَمُونَ

"The weakest of homes is the home of the spider if only they knew."
And it's not just because of the web but also for what happens inside it too,
The most fragile of homes home to the most ferocious of family feuds
A husband and wife relationship that is solely based on being used...
for consummation,
see as soon as they finish mating the wife would then consume
the body of her own husband
It's disgusting,

And so can the children be too
See as soon as they mature they would chew
upon their own mother as a source of food.
It's sinister it's crude
I don't want to imagine it But it's true

And such are the examples that are used
Not because God can be cruel
But for God to prove
that the weakest of homes are those in which the inhabitants are abused

See marriage is meant to bring happiness and the home is a refuge
of tranquility and comfort to all those who walk through.

And if you ever do happen to fall into disputes
You must learn to understand that marriage isn't always about you.
Rather it's learning to live together as one although we are still living together as two.

In a home where everybody knows that they belong,
with love, kindness and mercy so we could all just get along.
And there's no need for fighting every time something small goes wrong,
Because you can't build a home upon violence and expect it to stand strong.

I mean what kind of man would harm his wife
Leaving her to bleed in the darkness of the night
as he scars her for life
Having to cover up her bruises as she tries to hide them from sight
See he's so focused on her responsibilities but fails to realise he also owes her rights

See as her husband your meant to provide, protect, respect, guide and guard her
You are her garment her life long partner
Her prince charming who should charm her
Her knight in shining armour.

But her knight has turned into a night mare as he spends his nights trying to harm her.
As she begs him on her knees "Please I need you to be calmer.."

"I urge you
See patience is a virtue
I promise I didn't mean to hurt you
I never even heard you
Please don't be mad
and please don't let the kids see coz it's not right for a dad"

It's sickening it's sad
that such scenes are happening in reality
within the homes of so many broken families
It's a calamity that we forgot what the meaning of marriage is.

Did you forget that the best of you in character is?
he who is best to his wife
The best of advice
from the one who never harmed a servant, child or wife
in his whole entire life.

Muhammad (pbuh).

He was the best of examples in how to treat a woman right
See If his wife had cooked something he had liked
He would eat it, and if he didn't he would leave it, without expressing an ounce of dislike
He would even refuse an invitation to food until his wife also received an invite
See he was the pinnacle of being polite
He would help around the house too just to make her work load light
And he taught us that the strongest of men is not he who knows how to fight
But rather he who restrains his anger right at the moment of strife

So have Patience brother.
I mean you wouldn't allow it for your own mother
daughter or sister
You wouldn't bear to watch another man punch and kick her
So the next time you even think to cause her trauma and hit her
You need to understand that she too is another man's mother, daughter or sister.

So Dear sister, No human being deserves to live a life of violence alone
So if he doesn't treat you with kindness don't live in silence trying to fight this on your own
Rather seek help from God first and don't be afraid to then pick up the phone
And let your people know that you are no longer willing to live in the weakest of homes.
Violence against women - Islam says No.